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Dec. 13, 1979 Page 30 The Advocate, Newark Grandma bolls over treatment Court 12 arid 20 jpf children Mainly for Seniors teres ted. the first step toward a successful date. Dr. Murray Kappelman, a professor at the University of Maryland Medical School," says that first-date jitters can be avoided simply by having the right attitude and understanding that your partner is probably just as nervous as you are! Send questions to Dr.

Robert Wallace, TwEEN 12 and 20, in care of this newspaper. For Dr. Wallace's teen booklet, "Happi-v ness or Despair," please send $1 and a 28-cent stamped, large self-addressed envelope to Dr. Wallace, in care of Copley News Service, P.O. Box 190, San Diego, same address, married June 10, 1975.

Mary Hammond. 673-C W. Broadway. Granville, against Lewis Hammoond. 2404 North Granville, married 1956.

Modie Lee, 919 Jones against James Lee, 550 Wehrle married Jan. 20, 1955. Carla Price, P.O. Box 98, National Jacksontown. against Harold Price, same address, married May, 1977.

Kimberly Nickles, 146 Field-point against Jeffrey Nickles, 46 S. Hazelwood, married May 21, 1977. Velma Foor, 13505 Worthi-ngton Rd. SW, Pataskala. against Clarence Foor, same address, ness people feel around someone new.

says Seventeen Magazine. Many teens view first dates as the only chance to win the interest and affection of their partner. This lead to self-imposed pressure to live up to the other person's expectations. If you're trying to avoid doing or saying the wrong thing it's hard to be spontaneous. Small talk can take on crucial importance.

Dr. Desmond Heath, a New York psychiatrist, says, "Sometimes, it's best to forget that the primary object of a date is to get to know one another. It helps if you have another gal in mind and can work together on something teaching each other a new dance step, practicing a tennis serve, studying. Then you can get closer much more casually and easily." Some people insist that the best way to make a first date more comfortable is to invite another couple along. A group situation can really put a person at ease and may make the conversation less strained.

Double dating and going to a dance or party can be much more comfortable than being alone with your first-time date at a movie. If something makes you uneasy about the date, why not discuss it with your partner. This way, you show that you are married July 24. 1940. Melvin Cunningham, 3458 Price against Dana Cunningham, 156 Magnolia married April, 25, 1949.

Patty Newby, 114 Fleek against William Newby, same address, married June 25, 1973. Ava Hoovler, 18A W. Coshocton Johnstown, against John Hoovler, 62 Pershing Johnstown. Nancy Bagent. 12417 Camp Ohio St.

Louisville, against John Bagent, same address, married Feb. 7, 1977. Franklin Jones, 15324 McCown Rd. NE, against Erma Jones, 639 Maple married April 27, 1974. By JOHN ttAlT? Double dating helps ease jitters By DR.

ROBERT WALLACE, Ed.D. Copley News Service Teens: Whether you're 15 or 19, a first date can seem more like an ordeal than an adventure. One of the most prevalent first-date anxieties is the virtually universal self-conscious Carrie Barton, 67 Mark against Raymond Barton, Orange City, married May 12, 1979. Nancy Clarridge, 221 Mill L'tk-a, against Brian Clarridge, 65 Union Croton. Pauline Solomon, 252.

Eddy against Burton Solomon, same address, married May 8, 1976. Maxine Edwards. '58 Showman, against Herman Edwards, 91127. xi DIVORCES GRANTED Janet Steeno. P.O.

Box 321. Buckeye Lake, from Gary Steeno, address unknown, married June. 6, 1979. DISSOLUTIONS Hester Carter, Reynoldsburg, and Dale Carter, Reynoldsburg, married Nov, 11. 1977.

DIVORCES ASKED Margaret Mirenda, 191 W. Church against Andrew Mirenda, 93 Custer Rd married July 15, 1978. Constance Moulder, 141 S. Fourth against James Moulder.same address, married Oct. 14, 1973.

Marjorie Fifield, 1012 Irving Wick, against Larry Fifield, Orange City, married Dec. 26, 1977. Prayer wheels have gone into hiding Copley Newt Service Dear John: My daughter-in-law makes my blood boil the way she spoilt my grandson and granddaughter, both of them In their early teens. It got to the point on my last visit, and I don't go there too often, that I had to say something. Dorothy (that's not the child's real name) had been teasing for a new pair of roller skates.

She has a pair only 2 years old. This might not sound like a big deal, but have you priced skates recently, I mean good ones? The ones Dorothy wanted cost $45. Hardly batting an eye, her mother promised to go downtown the next day and purchase them. These are the kind where the skates are built onto shoes. It wasn't Christmas or birthday or anything.

Like I said, I couldn't keep my mouth shut anymore. "I hope," I said "yon know what you are doing to that child to both of them." "What do you mean?" she said, a bit frostily, you and that son of "You know what I mean," I and that son of mine are spoiling them so badly they won't be fit to live with. They already think money grows on trees. What will she want next, her own automobile? She already has a bicycle, that if my memory serves correct, yon paid $150 for." I said I knew it wasn't any of my business. She cut me off, "You're right, it isn't any of your business.

And as far as your son Is concerned, he and I agree that we want to give more to our children than we had, which wasn't very much." "You're also right," I said, "it wasn't much, but It was something, more than we had growing up in the Depression." I asked her how she would like it if she found she had married a spoiled brat Instead of the industrious, hardworking man he was, who brought in the money to buy $45 skates and $150 bicycles, among other things. She kind of sniffed and said she had to start dinner. I know it didn't do any good, but how can you stand by and see your kids make mistakes like this? Grandma. Dear Grandma: You said it, it didn't do any good, I'm afraid. Worse, it probably did some' harm.

Your daughter-in-law -and your son when she tells him -will mark you down for a meddling in-law. You can't unsay those words, bv.t you can keep in mind that the next generation must learn for itself. And above all, don't say "I told you so" when and if the grandchildren don't work hard enough in school, don't want to go to college, or get a job, either maybe go off bumming "to find themselves." Sen or daughter-in-law and rel-atives of any variety, when you're in their house, the best rule is to keep your advice to yourself. Dear John: I mould like to have a copy of your revised Pen Pal list. May I ask how you acquired such a list? Is it a club? And are1 the names on the list from all over the United States? Is there a description or a thumbnail sketch of each? A.C.

Dear A.C: The names were volunteered by people who said they would like to correspond with others after we said we would compile it. There is no club involved and yes, the names are from all over the United States. There is no description of anyone. You have to write and acquaint yourself with each other. There is no cost.

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